These girls aren’t wounded so much as post-wounded, and I see their sisters everywhere. They’re over it. I am not a melodramatic person. God help the woman who is. What I’ll call “post-wounded” isn’t a shift in deep feeling (we understand these women still hurt) but a shift away from wounded affect: These women are aware that “woundedness” is overdone and overrated. They are wary of melodrama, so they stay numb or clever instead. Post-wounded women make jokes about being wounded or get impatient with women who hurt too much. The post-wounded woman conducts herself as if preempting certain accusations: Don’t cry too loud; don’t play victim. Don’t ask for pain meds you don’t need; don’t give those doctors another reason to doubt. Post-wounded women fuck men who don’t love them and then they feel mildly sad about it, or just blasé about it; they refuse to hurt about it or to admit they hurt about it—or else they are endlessly self-aware about it, if they do allow themselves this hurting.
The post-wounded posture is claustrophobic: jadedness, aching gone implicit, sarcasm quick on the heels of anything that might look like self-pity. I see it in female writers and their female narrators, troves of stories about vaguely dissatisfied women who no longer fully own their feelings. Pain is everywhere and nowhere. Post-wounded women know that postures of pain play into limited and outmoded conceptions of womanhood. Their hurt has a new native language spoken in several dialects: sarcastic, jaded, opaque; cool and clever. They guard against those moments when melodrama or self-pity might split their careful seams of intellect, expose the shame of self-absorption without self-awareness. — Leslie Jamison, “Grand Unified Theory of Female Pain” (via not-nai)
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Calling all Nerdfighters Librarians! -
I was just wondering how many public libraries have nerdfighter clubs? I really want begin a nerdfighter club in one of the public libraries where I work, but as I’m a fairly new employee, and busy with school, I’m nervous to bring it up to my…
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The Siege of Jerusalem - Artist Unknown Great example of siege machines in action.
Captain Nieves Fernandez shows to an American soldier how she used her long knife to silently kill Japanese soldiers during occupation, 1944.
I finally have gotten myself to iron my clothes, I really like it. It is a great way to care for the self and it connects you with your clothes in a an obvious way that lets you care for them, too.
I don’t know if I ever will but learning to handle a sewing machine would be a great thing for me as well. Making my own clothes would be doooooooooooooooooooooooooope city.